Kerfuffle in Grobania -- Josh steps on the Red Carpet with Kat

Oh, my!  Just when we started saying that twitter was getting dull, just when we started saying we were going to do something else, BOOM!  Drama erupts.  Josh is dating!  And who?  Who? 

She has big breasts.  There were leaked nude photos. (I’m not going to put up the link to the nude photos.  I think it should be crime to leak nude photos without the permission of the model) A woman previously connected with Josh is “devastated.”

Some fans react negatively.  Josh wasn’t who they thought, they say. 

Some reactions here, myself.

Young women often don’t understand the implications of posing nude.  We saw that, sadly, when Vanessa William’s Miss America crown was stolen from her, because nude photos got leaked, by some unscrupulous person; after she had lied and said there were no nude photos.

I remember that incident.  

I learned then that young female performers are often persuaded to do nude photos by photographers who don’t care at all for the performer, but only about earning some extra bucks.  And, once the photos are leaked, they can never be undone.

As a result of reading about this, I would never let a lover or my husband photograph me nude.  I was horrified that a nurse did it after childbirth and I took the photos to be developed by a male stranger without knowing that those photos were on the film.  Fortunately, we don’t have film any more.

We saw another curious example recently, where Miley Cyrus provoked great consternation with her “twerking.”  Miley cited Sinead O’Connor as her inspiration.  The older singer had done something similar.

Sinead then wrote an open letter to Miley urging Miley not to follow Sinead’s example.  http://music-mix.ew.com/2013/10/02/sinead-oconnor-miley-cyrus-open-letter/  Sinead later felt that she had been exploited by men who were making much more money than she  was — and pimped, essentially.  

Will the younger woman listen?  Probably not.  The young usually don’t.

Does that mean she’s a bad person?  

So quick the call that she is “trash” or a “slut.”  

This issue has been discussed in the press, the concept of slut shaming.
http://t.co/lvndE5Tqay 
http://t.co/BBbYBapZa6  

Women’s cruelty to each other is a huge feminist issue.  It forces women into the arms of men rather than allowing us to unite together for our common good.  

Men call them cat fights.  Men fear groups of women because of this cruel behavior and shut women out of positions of power and influence to avoid having to deal with the phenomenon.  Our emotional reactions to each other give men power over us, relegate us to second class citizens. 

I would submit that we must use our enlarged brains to overcome the base instinct to scratch each others’ eyes out.  That instinct is our downfall, our greatest weakness, the bars to our prison.

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Now, on to Josh.  

Who did we think he was?  Why would anyone be disappointed?

Let’s see,  He’s slender, awkward, nerdy, musical, shy, deferential, considerate.  He speaks in a high voice, even tho his singing voice is deep.  It’s easy to think he might be asexual or gay.  Even though he’s made pretty clear that he’s a horny, straight guy, we might not have entirely believed him.

Why do we want him to be asexual or gay? 

That leads to the question of who we are.

Let me speculate.  As women approaching or in menopause, has sex become more difficult, physically? Do we long for someone who wants and needs us, but doesn’t need to do that?  Have we lost someone who did love and need us, and Josh, understanding us by singing TWYA, seemed to step into the void?  

What was it about his voice that drew us?  Wasn’t it at least partly that overpowering emotion of miserable longing?  Did we hope that somehow he could produce that sound we craved, that sound of someone who wanted and needed us, without actually having a strong sex drive?

Yet we watch Josh perform, and he sometimes becomes aroused as he sings.  The iheart radio concert in 2012 was a notable example.  I was mesmerized watching that happen, but equally mesmerized by the way his voice got even more beautiful when he was aroused — when he sang “She Came Through the Fair” like that.  The passion really came through.

Doesn’t the particular intonation of his voice somehow fulfill a subliminal craving for the man who wants me so much?  

Isn’t it impossible that he could produce that sound without actually being a really horny guy?

So there are these rumors of him being a Lothario.  I don’t know if he is or not, but, if he is, should we be surprised?  Wasn’t it that very quality his voice that drew us to him?  Isn’t it hypocritical to condemn him for the very thing that is his genius -- the ability to desire so strongly?

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Addendum:

Now look here, Lady Gaga is doing a ceremony of commitment with Taylor Kinney

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2791135/lady-gaga-boyfriend-taylor-kinney-hold-commitment-ceremony-prove-dedication.html

Here is a person who was doing public nudity, drugs, declaring herself to be bi, etc.  Now, a bit older and more mature, she's doing an album with Tony Bennet and having a ceremony of commitment with a straight man.

This goes to show how we shouldn't judge people, including Kat and Josh, based on how they were when they were younger.  People mature and change, sometimes for the better -- sometimes not.